Blog Archives

The most recent posts can be found here, but there are so many more to read! Scroll away, friend.

Blog Archives

The most recent posts can be found here, but there are so many more to read! Scroll away, friend.

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How to Host a Podcast and Pizza Party

How to Host a Podcast and Pizza Party

Affordability and fun are the keys to sustaining fresh and new ways to connect with your friends. So, when brainstorming an easy way to connect with our friends I just happened to be listening to a podcast with Tim. That’s when it hit me! Tim and I love listening to...

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DIY Friendship: The art of making new friends

DIY Friendship: The art of making new friends

I scroll through Pinterest looking to DIY the perfect hand-dyed ombre kitchen towel project.  After reading a few blogs, I think, “I get the gist. I am ready to give it a try.” Famous last words because my lack of attention to detail renders all my DIY projects...

read more
Investing in your soul care to serve others

Investing in your soul care to serve others

Hospitality comes in all shapes and sizes, but it requires the same discipline of making daily deposits to our soul care so we can welcome others with generous hearts. When I am empty, I struggle to be a friendly, kind-hearted person. This horrendous, ugly person...

read more
Finding the Right Friendship Filter

Finding the Right Friendship Filter

It’s easy to make acquaintances, it’s harder to make quality friends. We bounce from friend group to friend group looking for the people we can bestow the coveted title “besties” to. We are on the search not just for some women we can occasionally meet for happy hour,...

read more
The Harmful Narratives to Making Friends

The Harmful Narratives to Making Friends

When we get stuck in our friendships, we listen to harmful voices to clarify what went wrong. When I started college in 2009, I had a lot of unspoken expectations for community. I assumed it would be: + like-minded women who thought about their faith exactly like I...

read more
Five Rules for Healthier “Momlationships”

Five Rules for Healthier “Momlationships”

Thou shall serve other moms. Every mom is struggling in some way. Whether it is getting dinner on the table or shoes on kid’s feet. It is a general rule of thumb that if you see a mom wrestling her child while juggling snack containers, jackets and a diaper bag, that...

read more
Picking Yourself Up After a Bad Friendship

Picking Yourself Up After a Bad Friendship

Friendship is weird. There’s some good weird and bad weird and we fall somewhere in the middle. Women will let us down. They will forget the important things and remember the small petty things. They will intentionally or unintentionally leave you out and may tell a...

read more
Did Your Friendship Make a Difference this year?

Did Your Friendship Make a Difference this year?

You made a difference in your community this year: ✨ You made a new friend. ✨ You travelled long distances to stay connected. ✨ You brought over monster cookies when she called about her bad day. ✨ You started a bible study to go deeper. ✨ You wore matching t-shirts...

read more
Your Community Does Not Define Your Value

Your Community Does Not Define Your Value

I used to be more confident—unshakeable in my identity in Christ. But then life happened, and the power of people’s perceptions felt stronger than God’s. When God said I was loved, I poured all my energy into being someone I felt my community could love. Even though...

read more
Holiday Gifts That Give Back Guide 2018

Holiday Gifts That Give Back Guide 2018

This holiday season, purchase with a purpose by giving gifts that give back. Not only do the following companies make incredible products that will charm your family and friends, they also support a variety of different causes. May your gifts inspire cheer and charity...

read more
How to Create an Unforgettable Friendsgiving

How to Create an Unforgettable Friendsgiving

Every year, Thanksgiving becomes more difficult for people to travel home to see family. Flight prices increase, jobs give fewer vacation days, and many in our community find themselves choosing to stay in the city during the holiday (even though this year we do get...

read more
Creating Friendship Habits for Every Season

Creating Friendship Habits for Every Season

IS IT WEIRD TO HAVE FRIENDSHIP HABITS?! Absolutely not! Brainstorming a rhythm for how we will grow as a friend can help give us vision for where we’d like to see our friendships in a month, a year or five years and setting intentional steps to pursue that vision....

read more
How to Balance Food and Friend Time

How to Balance Food and Friend Time

Food. It's usually an ingredient to time well spent with friends. But how do we balance the plate of brownies with good boundaries? Do you give yourself a pep talk before you go to an event, telling yourself you won’t eat the pizza and stick to the veggie tray? I...

read more
How to Host a Retreat for Your Small Group

How to Host a Retreat for Your Small Group

Last fall, my small group decided to host our very own women’s retreat. We missed the bond and growth that happens over a retreat experience. One gal stepped up to help me organize everything and it was such a blessing for our entire community and I want to provide...

read more
How do you engage in friendship as a family?

How do you engage in friendship as a family?

Family friendships are dynamic. That’s the best way I can describe it. It is never easy, your best friend ‘s husband may have totally different interests then your husband and when you add kids into the mix it is extra crazy sauce in the recipe of friendship. Hunter...

read more
Backyard Rainbow Birthday Brunch

Backyard Rainbow Birthday Brunch

I love my birthday! Growing up, my mom always made them so special, unique and one-of-a kind celebrations. So, the tradition continues. Now, I host my own birthday parties and I love to plan occasions that are a treat for my friends and a celebration of how much they...

read more
My Best Tips for Hosting Big Gatherings

My Best Tips for Hosting Big Gatherings

It can be really intimidating to host a large number of people. How do you feed them all? How do you make sure everyone is having a good time? I want to know that my guests are having a good time, feel comfortable and walk away chatting about how glad they were that...

read more
How to Fight Hospitality Fatigue

How to Fight Hospitality Fatigue

Hospitality fatigue is a real thing! My mom often mentions how crazy I am with the amount of people we serve in our home (or outside the home) and I shrug it off thinking “I couldn’t love it more.” But recently, I’ve felt physically and mentally exhausted which means...

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Six qualities a GREAT friend practices

Six qualities a GREAT friend practices

Ever wondered what qualities make up a great friend? Whether you have been questioning the company you keep or you've felt like you needed to step up and be a better friend, here are six qualities we should all aim to practice. She keeps the circle open. A woman who...

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A Tea Party to Foster YOUR Friendships

A Tea Party to Foster YOUR Friendships

Guest post by Mel K. In light of last week's Fostering Friendships Challenge, I wanted to share my personal experience. The challenge couldn't have better timing because it took place just before my annual tea party! The Problem One of the problems I have is that I...

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3 Day #FosteringFriendships Challenge

3 Day #FosteringFriendships Challenge

Summer provides a lot of opportunities to foster our friendships. The warm weather and long nights allow us to gather after work, get outside on the weekends and enjoy time together. But to nourish and encourage the depth we want in our friendships, we will need to be...

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The First Steps to Making New Friends

The First Steps to Making New Friends

So you are new to town or you just started college or maybe you've just decided it is time to step out of your comfort zone and meet your neighbors. At different seasons in our lives, we will have to repeat the steps of making new friends. I wish the process got...

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Do Good Together: May Day Baskets

Do Good Together: May Day Baskets

When I was growing up, we practiced the tradition of leaving May Day Baskets on our neighbors’ porches. It usually consisted of baked goods or flowers, sometimes even paper flowers I had made at school. We would place the basket on the porch with a little “Happy May...

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Five Ways to Create a Rooted Marriage

Five Ways to Create a Rooted Marriage

Tim and I are approaching our third year of marriage and we certainly don’t claim to “know-it-all” but we would love to share with you some things that have significantly impacted our relationship and how we communicate life in our home. Preemptively Set Expectations...

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The Best Book List for Your Faith-Based Book Club

The Best Book List for Your Faith-Based Book Club

Calling all book worms! It’s one thing to spend time with our friends, it’s another thing to engage with your friends’ minds, ideas and faiths. If you want to take your friendships to a new level (or just have an excuse to get together once a week), consider grabbing...

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What is the Role of Technology in Friendship?

What is the Role of Technology in Friendship?

My husband and I picked up a book called The Tech-Wise Family this winter and began to intentionally set boundaries around our technology use. We still love a good television show and can certainly bond over a funny YouTube video, but we felt like there was this...

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Interview with Author, Melanie Shankle

Interview with Author, Melanie Shankle

Sometimes to encourage our efforts in friendship, we need real examples of women who are cultivating deep, life-long relationships with one another. Author, Melanie Shankle, celebrates her twenty-five-year friendship with her best friend Gulley in her memoir: Nobody’s...

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How to Be Forward in Your Friendships

How to Be Forward in Your Friendships

I told her, “I’m all in.” The music was loud and I wasn’t sure she heard me so I said it again, “I really want this to be a lasting, real friendship. I want to hold each other accountable. Meet regularly. I want to come to a place where we can text each other about...

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Friend Date Ideas for the Cold Months

Friend Date Ideas for the Cold Months

Even though we want to hibernate in our homes during the colder months, we need to continue to find ways to connect! Here's five creative, inexpensive, and fun friend dates to try until the warmer months come. Thrifty and Nifty I am a newb to thrifting but some of my...

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Hospitality: Asking Intentional Questions

Hospitality: Asking Intentional Questions

You’ve invited folks over for an evening to reconnect and share a good meal. Before your friends arrive, you are finishing up dinner details, cleaning up the house and selecting the party music. Creating an environment that feels thoughtful, inviting and nourishing is...

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Befriending Your Children

Befriending Your Children

Usually I am writing about building my relationships with friends, but my community also extends to the two people who live inside my home—the ones that truly have to “do life” with me. Perhaps, nurturing these relationships are the most important! Being a first-time...

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How to Host a Fundraising Dinner in Your Home

How to Host a Fundraising Dinner in Your Home

My husband and I share the spiritual gift of hospitality. We love hosting and serving our community by creating a secondary home of belonging, grace, truth and God’s love. Yet, we also feel called to serve the community at large. And so we thought, how could we...

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New Year FRIENDSHIP Resolutions

New Year FRIENDSHIP Resolutions

Nothing ever happens by chance and community is no exception. It's a new year and there are new opportunities to be intentional with your community. Want to see your friendships flourish this year? Want to finally step out of your comfort zone and get vulnerable with...

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Z is for Zion

Z is for Zion

For the LORD has chosen Zion; He has desired it for His habitation. 'This is My resting place forever; Here I will dwell, for I have desired it.  Psalm 132: 13-14 Those who trust in the Lord are as Mount Zion, which cannot be moved but abides forever. As the mountain...

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X is for…

X is for…

...who are we kidding? I cannot get all spiritual with a word that relates to the letter X. So, instead enjoy this cute picture of a puppy. It will make you feel just as good, if not better, as an inspired blog post #rootedcommunity #puppiesmakelifebetter

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Y is for Your Turn

Y is for Your Turn

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 1 Peter 2:9 At the end of every service at our church, the pastor...

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W is for Waging War

W is for Waging War

But the Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one.  2 Thessalonians 3:3 A friend of mine showed up at my door one day needing to talk through some tough things that had been happening in her life. To be honest, I was nervous. I didn’t...

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Holiday “Gifts that Give Back” Guide 2017

Holiday “Gifts that Give Back” Guide 2017

This holiday season, purchase with a purpose by giving gifts that give back. Not only do the following companies make incredible products that will charm your family and friends, but they also support a variety of different causes. May your gifts inspire cheer and...

read more
V is for Vision Casting

V is for Vision Casting

Conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ. Then...I will know that you stand firm in the one Spirit, striving together as one for the faith of the gospel.  -Philippians 1:27 The first few months after I became a Christian, I wrote down Philippians...

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U is for Unity

U is for Unity

How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity! Psalm 133:1 I decided to do something outside my comfort zone in the 7th grade and signed up to play basketball. Nevermind that I didn't even know how to dribble the ball, I thought it sounded new...

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T is for Tears

T is for Tears

"If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together." 1 Corinthians 12:26 When I moved to Denver, I was in a long-distance relationship that I assumed was leading to the alter. I had already made my life plan (in my head and...

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S is for Shared Experience

S is for Shared Experience

But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed.   1 Peter 4:13 There’s nothing that bonds people together like sharing life experiences. That’s why team-building retreats exist. I secretly hate...

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R is for Rest

R is for Rest

"And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he [Jesus] departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed. -Mark 1:35 My husband and I struggle with an issue of “The Obligatory Yes.” We genuinely love having people in our home, but it...

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Q is for Quiet Time

Q is for Quiet Time

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.  -2 Timothy 3:16-17 Most Christians have heard of the term “spiritual...

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P is for Prayer

P is for Prayer

Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere. Ephesians 6:18 Do you ever find that at the end of a small group, church gathering, or even just a meal that the obligatory prayer time...

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O is for Ordinary

O is for Ordinary

And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with...

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N is for Need

N is for Need

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2 I sit down to meet my friend for coffee- a typical Saturday morning catch up and  one of my favorite activities. We laugh, we get serious and we share a little bit of our...

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M is for Mature

M is for Mature

And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus...

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L is for Lies

L is for Lies

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly - John 10:10 Just when we think our friendships are going well, the devil comes and steals our joy away. You may not recognize his schemes but the devil is...

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K is for Kiddos

K is for Kiddos

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. -Proverbs 22:6 I have now entered a stage in life where a I feel like I’ve grown an extra appendage in the shape of a small child. Most would call this motherhood.  Before I...

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J is for Jimmy and Justin

J is for Jimmy and Justin

At last Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, for we have sworn loyalty to each other in the Lord’s name. The Lord is the witness of a bond between us and our children forever. - 1 Sam. 20:42 NLT. You’ve seen their Camp Winnipesaukee skits, you’ve laughed at their...

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I is for Introduction

I is for Introduction

Then Moses said to God, “If I come to the people of Israel and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ what shall I say to them?” God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM.” -Exodus 3:13-14a The nerves were probably not...

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H is for Holiday Homecoming

H is for Holiday Homecoming

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy, because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now. -Philippians 1:3-5. How do you stay connected to your long-distance friends?...

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G is for Grace

G is for Grace

"for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Jesus Christ" -Romans 3:23-24 The phone rang and rang. This was the third time this month I was trying to get ahold of her. We had just...

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F is for Faithful

F is for Faithful

Then Jesus told his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me." -Matthew 16:24 The most popular box checked on any Facebook event we are invited to is “maybe.” The fact that “maybe” even exists on the page is...

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E is for Edifying Words

E is for Edifying Words

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer each person. - Colossians 4:6 Like many stay-at-home moms, I’m also a full-time chef for my family of 3. My two signature dishes, chicken with spaghetti and chicken with other...

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D is for Do Good

D is for Do Good

And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased. -Hebrews 13:16 As an idealistic college student, I remember the moment when I met “my people”--the 20 somethings who cared about the same causes and had the same grand...

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C is for Cake Day

C is for Cake Day

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. -Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV We all need excuses to spend time...

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B is for Belong

B is for Belong

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends. -John 15:13-15 I...

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A is for Adoration

A is for Adoration

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. -Genesis 1:27 This Thursday night is girls night. I reach out to my friends to see if anyone is available to spend some girl-time together and no response....

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Rooted Community from A to Z

Rooted Community from A to Z

Rooted faith bears fruitful fellowship. I woke up after an incredibly uncomfortable nap on the basement floor. I pushed myself up on my forearms and looked around the room at all the sleepy faces. I closed my eyes and told myself to cast this moment into the walls of...

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Join me on Radiant Podcast, Episode #25

Join me on Radiant Podcast, Episode #25

If you have always wanted a chance to pick my brain about friendship, now you can! As a Radiant columnist, I had the opportunity to talk all things FRIENDSHIP on the Radiant Podcast! Friendship is one of my favorite topics because we each have a unique opportunity to...

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Who are Your “Quiet Times” for?

Who are Your “Quiet Times” for?

Most Christians have heard of the term “spiritual discipline” which usually conjures up thoughts of hours alone meditating on Scripture and praying. Growing up, I had a  Sunday School teacher who would call my house in the middle of the week to ask how my Bible...

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Do Your Friends See the Real You?

Do Your Friends See the Real You?

It was silent for a moment. Then a woman from my small group responded, “That’s why you probably don’t have many friends.” She was frank. To the point.  And a little harsh. The conversation was interrupted by the leader pointing us to the next question. My jaw hung...

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Is It OK to Admit Loneliness?

Is It OK to Admit Loneliness?

“It is when we are most lost that we sometimes find our truest friends.” –Brothers Grimm, Snow White My junior year at college was a mixed bag of lots of good community but, little connection. If you saw me around campus you probably thought: “That girl has it...

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Books that Build Relationships: Nothing to Prove

Books that Build Relationships: Nothing to Prove

Before 10am there are already a list of things telling me I’m not enough. I am behind on laundry, I did not meet a work deadline and I choose to eat a donut rather than avocado toast for breakfast. To turn my insufficiencies around, I try harder. I people please. I...

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Holiday “Gifts that Give Back” Guide 2016

Holiday “Gifts that Give Back” Guide 2016

This holiday season, purchase with a purpose by giving gifts that give back. Not only do the following companies make incredible products that will charm your family and friends, but they also support a variety of different causes. May your gifts inspire cheer and...

read more
Are You Done Striving?

Are You Done Striving?

After a season of intense striving, I am exhausted. I am physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally drained. And not for the reasons you may assume. As a self-labeled “go-getter” or “girlboss,” I have given into the lie that I have to do whatever it takes to...

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Does Your Instagram Serve Others through Story?

Does Your Instagram Serve Others through Story?

Recently, I took some webinars on Instagram strategies. Sounds crazy and totally a Millennial thing to do…because it is. Yet, we can’t be casual or careless with such a powerful social tool. How do our posts tell a larger story? Who does our Instagram serve? How can...

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Mentorship: Show Them Your Sweat Stains

Mentorship: Show Them Your Sweat Stains

When I began my mentoring relationship in undergrad, I was willing and excited to dive in, but also going through a dark period in my life. The start of my junior year led me to confront a lot of my unmet expectations about community. I thought when I left for college...

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Benefits of Being Grateful

Benefits of Being Grateful

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. -1 Thessalonians 5:18 Thanksgiving Day is not the only time of year to express your gratitude. Gratitude is the posture we should reach for when it comes naturally and especially...

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I am Not a Survivor…

I am Not a Survivor…

Now that my firstborn has arrived, I am constantly battling the “need” of being a first time parent. When others offer to help, my first response is to push away and say, “I’ve got this.” If my life were like Survivor (sometimes I like to believe it’s that intense),...

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40 Days of Prayer and Gratitude Challenge

40 Days of Prayer and Gratitude Challenge

I am an incurable challenge seeker. Once, my parents and I embarked on a two-week family vacation where they planned to golf and I, to sit around. I wasn't going to have any of that, so I told them I was going to find myself a job. They doubted me. They thought, in...

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Books that Build Relationships: Breaking Busy

Books that Build Relationships: Breaking Busy

The title alone, Breaking Busy, by Alli Worthington is enough reason for us all to pick up this book and put down whatever tool of distraction we’re using. I’m talking to you Netflix. I have always been a planner and a connector; filling my days with all sorts of...

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Mentorship: Committing to the Process

Mentorship: Committing to the Process

Two weeks before I left my hometown in Kansas for college in California, I met a young college girl named Missy at a summer Christian camp. She attended the University of Kansas and was known for having the gift of immediately befriending people. I had heard about her...

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Aromatic Influence

Aromatic Influence

I hate the moment when I am driving out of my garage, have turned onto the main road headed toward my busy day, and realize I forgot to put deodorant on. If I am not reminded by my mental checklist of morning to-dos, I am quickly reminded a few hours later when I get...

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How to Host a Podcast and Pizza Party

Affordability and fun are the keys to sustaining fresh and new ways to connect with your friends. So, when brainstorming an easy way to connect with our friends I just happened to be listening to a podcast with Tim. That’s when it hit me! Tim and I love listening to...

read more

DIY Friendship: The art of making new friends

I scroll through Pinterest looking to DIY the perfect hand-dyed ombre kitchen towel project.  After reading a few blogs, I think, “I get the gist. I am ready to give it a try.” Famous last words because my lack of attention to detail renders all my DIY projects...

read more

Investing in your soul care to serve others

Hospitality comes in all shapes and sizes, but it requires the same discipline of making daily deposits to our soul care so we can welcome others with generous hearts. When I am empty, I struggle to be a friendly, kind-hearted person. This horrendous, ugly person...

read more

Finding the Right Friendship Filter

It’s easy to make acquaintances, it’s harder to make quality friends. We bounce from friend group to friend group looking for the people we can bestow the coveted title “besties” to. We are on the search not just for some women we can occasionally meet for happy hour,...

read more

The Harmful Narratives to Making Friends

When we get stuck in our friendships, we listen to harmful voices to clarify what went wrong. When I started college in 2009, I had a lot of unspoken expectations for community. I assumed it would be: + like-minded women who thought about their faith exactly like I...

read more

Five Rules for Healthier “Momlationships”

Thou shall serve other moms. Every mom is struggling in some way. Whether it is getting dinner on the table or shoes on kid’s feet. It is a general rule of thumb that if you see a mom wrestling her child while juggling snack containers, jackets and a diaper bag, that...

read more

Picking Yourself Up After a Bad Friendship

Friendship is weird. There’s some good weird and bad weird and we fall somewhere in the middle. Women will let us down. They will forget the important things and remember the small petty things. They will intentionally or unintentionally leave you out and may tell a...

read more

Did Your Friendship Make a Difference this year?

You made a difference in your community this year: ✨ You made a new friend. ✨ You travelled long distances to stay connected. ✨ You brought over monster cookies when she called about her bad day. ✨ You started a bible study to go deeper. ✨ You wore matching t-shirts...

read more

Your Community Does Not Define Your Value

I used to be more confident—unshakeable in my identity in Christ. But then life happened, and the power of people’s perceptions felt stronger than God’s. When God said I was loved, I poured all my energy into being someone I felt my community could love. Even though...

read more

Holiday Gifts That Give Back Guide 2018

This holiday season, purchase with a purpose by giving gifts that give back. Not only do the following companies make incredible products that will charm your family and friends, they also support a variety of different causes. May your gifts inspire cheer and charity...

read more

How to Create an Unforgettable Friendsgiving

Every year, Thanksgiving becomes more difficult for people to travel home to see family. Flight prices increase, jobs give fewer vacation days, and many in our community find themselves choosing to stay in the city during the holiday (even though this year we do get...

read more

Creating Friendship Habits for Every Season

IS IT WEIRD TO HAVE FRIENDSHIP HABITS?! Absolutely not! Brainstorming a rhythm for how we will grow as a friend can help give us vision for where we’d like to see our friendships in a month, a year or five years and setting intentional steps to pursue that vision....

read more

How to Balance Food and Friend Time

Food. It's usually an ingredient to time well spent with friends. But how do we balance the plate of brownies with good boundaries? Do you give yourself a pep talk before you go to an event, telling yourself you won’t eat the pizza and stick to the veggie tray? I...

read more

How to Host a Retreat for Your Small Group

Last fall, my small group decided to host our very own women’s retreat. We missed the bond and growth that happens over a retreat experience. One gal stepped up to help me organize everything and it was such a blessing for our entire community and I want to provide...

read more

How do you engage in friendship as a family?

Family friendships are dynamic. That’s the best way I can describe it. It is never easy, your best friend ‘s husband may have totally different interests then your husband and when you add kids into the mix it is extra crazy sauce in the recipe of friendship. Hunter...

read more

Backyard Rainbow Birthday Brunch

I love my birthday! Growing up, my mom always made them so special, unique and one-of-a kind celebrations. So, the tradition continues. Now, I host my own birthday parties and I love to plan occasions that are a treat for my friends and a celebration of how much they...

read more

My Best Tips for Hosting Big Gatherings

It can be really intimidating to host a large number of people. How do you feed them all? How do you make sure everyone is having a good time? I want to know that my guests are having a good time, feel comfortable and walk away chatting about how glad they were that...

read more

How to Fight Hospitality Fatigue

Hospitality fatigue is a real thing! My mom often mentions how crazy I am with the amount of people we serve in our home (or outside the home) and I shrug it off thinking “I couldn’t love it more.” But recently, I’ve felt physically and mentally exhausted which means...

read more

Six qualities a GREAT friend practices

Ever wondered what qualities make up a great friend? Whether you have been questioning the company you keep or you've felt like you needed to step up and be a better friend, here are six qualities we should all aim to practice. She keeps the circle open. A woman who...

read more

A Tea Party to Foster YOUR Friendships

Guest post by Mel K. In light of last week's Fostering Friendships Challenge, I wanted to share my personal experience. The challenge couldn't have better timing because it took place just before my annual tea party! The Problem One of the problems I have is that I...

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3 Day #FosteringFriendships Challenge

Summer provides a lot of opportunities to foster our friendships. The warm weather and long nights allow us to gather after work, get outside on the weekends and enjoy time together. But to nourish and encourage the depth we want in our friendships, we will need to be...

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The First Steps to Making New Friends

So you are new to town or you just started college or maybe you've just decided it is time to step out of your comfort zone and meet your neighbors. At different seasons in our lives, we will have to repeat the steps of making new friends. I wish the process got...

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Do Good Together: May Day Baskets

When I was growing up, we practiced the tradition of leaving May Day Baskets on our neighbors’ porches. It usually consisted of baked goods or flowers, sometimes even paper flowers I had made at school. We would place the basket on the porch with a little “Happy May...

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Five Ways to Create a Rooted Marriage

Tim and I are approaching our third year of marriage and we certainly don’t claim to “know-it-all” but we would love to share with you some things that have significantly impacted our relationship and how we communicate life in our home. Preemptively Set Expectations...

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The Best Book List for Your Faith-Based Book Club

Calling all book worms! It’s one thing to spend time with our friends, it’s another thing to engage with your friends’ minds, ideas and faiths. If you want to take your friendships to a new level (or just have an excuse to get together once a week), consider grabbing...

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What is the Role of Technology in Friendship?

My husband and I picked up a book called The Tech-Wise Family this winter and began to intentionally set boundaries around our technology use. We still love a good television show and can certainly bond over a funny YouTube video, but we felt like there was this...

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Interview with Author, Melanie Shankle

Sometimes to encourage our efforts in friendship, we need real examples of women who are cultivating deep, life-long relationships with one another. Author, Melanie Shankle, celebrates her twenty-five-year friendship with her best friend Gulley in her memoir: Nobody’s...

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How to Be Forward in Your Friendships

I told her, “I’m all in.” The music was loud and I wasn’t sure she heard me so I said it again, “I really want this to be a lasting, real friendship. I want to hold each other accountable. Meet regularly. I want to come to a place where we can text each other about...

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Friend Date Ideas for the Cold Months

Even though we want to hibernate in our homes during the colder months, we need to continue to find ways to connect! Here's five creative, inexpensive, and fun friend dates to try until the warmer months come. Thrifty and Nifty I am a newb to thrifting but some of my...

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Hospitality: Asking Intentional Questions

You’ve invited folks over for an evening to reconnect and share a good meal. Before your friends arrive, you are finishing up dinner details, cleaning up the house and selecting the party music. Creating an environment that feels thoughtful, inviting and nourishing is...

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Befriending Your Children

Usually I am writing about building my relationships with friends, but my community also extends to the two people who live inside my home—the ones that truly have to “do life” with me. Perhaps, nurturing these relationships are the most important! Being a first-time...

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How to Host a Fundraising Dinner in Your Home

My husband and I share the spiritual gift of hospitality. We love hosting and serving our community by creating a secondary home of belonging, grace, truth and God’s love. Yet, we also feel called to serve the community at large. And so we thought, how could we...

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New Year FRIENDSHIP Resolutions

Nothing ever happens by chance and community is no exception. It's a new year and there are new opportunities to be intentional with your community. Want to see your friendships flourish this year? Want to finally step out of your comfort zone and get vulnerable with...

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Z is for Zion

For the LORD has chosen Zion; He has desired it for His habitation. 'This is My resting place forever; Here I will dwell, for I have desired it.  Psalm 132: 13-14 Those who trust in the Lord are as Mount Zion, which cannot be moved but abides forever. As the mountain...

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X is for…

...who are we kidding? I cannot get all spiritual with a word that relates to the letter X. So, instead enjoy this cute picture of a puppy. It will make you feel just as good, if not better, as an inspired blog post #rootedcommunity #puppiesmakelifebetter

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Y is for Your Turn

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 1 Peter 2:9 At the end of every service at our church, the pastor...

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W is for Waging War

But the Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one.  2 Thessalonians 3:3 A friend of mine showed up at my door one day needing to talk through some tough things that had been happening in her life. To be honest, I was nervous. I didn’t...

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Holiday “Gifts that Give Back” Guide 2017

This holiday season, purchase with a purpose by giving gifts that give back. Not only do the following companies make incredible products that will charm your family and friends, but they also support a variety of different causes. May your gifts inspire cheer and...

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V is for Vision Casting

Conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ. Then...I will know that you stand firm in the one Spirit, striving together as one for the faith of the gospel.  -Philippians 1:27 The first few months after I became a Christian, I wrote down Philippians...

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U is for Unity

How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity! Psalm 133:1 I decided to do something outside my comfort zone in the 7th grade and signed up to play basketball. Nevermind that I didn't even know how to dribble the ball, I thought it sounded new...

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T is for Tears

"If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together." 1 Corinthians 12:26 When I moved to Denver, I was in a long-distance relationship that I assumed was leading to the alter. I had already made my life plan (in my head and...

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S is for Shared Experience

But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed.   1 Peter 4:13 There’s nothing that bonds people together like sharing life experiences. That’s why team-building retreats exist. I secretly hate...

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R is for Rest

"And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he [Jesus] departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed. -Mark 1:35 My husband and I struggle with an issue of “The Obligatory Yes.” We genuinely love having people in our home, but it...

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Q is for Quiet Time

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.  -2 Timothy 3:16-17 Most Christians have heard of the term “spiritual...

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P is for Prayer

Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere. Ephesians 6:18 Do you ever find that at the end of a small group, church gathering, or even just a meal that the obligatory prayer time...

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O is for Ordinary

And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with...

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N is for Need

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2 I sit down to meet my friend for coffee- a typical Saturday morning catch up and  one of my favorite activities. We laugh, we get serious and we share a little bit of our...

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M is for Mature

And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus...

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L is for Lies

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly - John 10:10 Just when we think our friendships are going well, the devil comes and steals our joy away. You may not recognize his schemes but the devil is...

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K is for Kiddos

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. -Proverbs 22:6 I have now entered a stage in life where a I feel like I’ve grown an extra appendage in the shape of a small child. Most would call this motherhood.  Before I...

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J is for Jimmy and Justin

At last Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, for we have sworn loyalty to each other in the Lord’s name. The Lord is the witness of a bond between us and our children forever. - 1 Sam. 20:42 NLT. You’ve seen their Camp Winnipesaukee skits, you’ve laughed at their...

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I is for Introduction

Then Moses said to God, “If I come to the people of Israel and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ what shall I say to them?” God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM.” -Exodus 3:13-14a The nerves were probably not...

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H is for Holiday Homecoming

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy, because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now. -Philippians 1:3-5. How do you stay connected to your long-distance friends?...

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G is for Grace

"for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Jesus Christ" -Romans 3:23-24 The phone rang and rang. This was the third time this month I was trying to get ahold of her. We had just...

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F is for Faithful

Then Jesus told his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me." -Matthew 16:24 The most popular box checked on any Facebook event we are invited to is “maybe.” The fact that “maybe” even exists on the page is...

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E is for Edifying Words

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer each person. - Colossians 4:6 Like many stay-at-home moms, I’m also a full-time chef for my family of 3. My two signature dishes, chicken with spaghetti and chicken with other...

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D is for Do Good

And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased. -Hebrews 13:16 As an idealistic college student, I remember the moment when I met “my people”--the 20 somethings who cared about the same causes and had the same grand...

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C is for Cake Day

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. -Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV We all need excuses to spend time...

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B is for Belong

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends. -John 15:13-15 I...

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A is for Adoration

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. -Genesis 1:27 This Thursday night is girls night. I reach out to my friends to see if anyone is available to spend some girl-time together and no response....

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Rooted Community from A to Z

Rooted faith bears fruitful fellowship. I woke up after an incredibly uncomfortable nap on the basement floor. I pushed myself up on my forearms and looked around the room at all the sleepy faces. I closed my eyes and told myself to cast this moment into the walls of...

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Join me on Radiant Podcast, Episode #25

If you have always wanted a chance to pick my brain about friendship, now you can! As a Radiant columnist, I had the opportunity to talk all things FRIENDSHIP on the Radiant Podcast! Friendship is one of my favorite topics because we each have a unique opportunity to...

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Who are Your “Quiet Times” for?

Most Christians have heard of the term “spiritual discipline” which usually conjures up thoughts of hours alone meditating on Scripture and praying. Growing up, I had a  Sunday School teacher who would call my house in the middle of the week to ask how my Bible...

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Do Your Friends See the Real You?

It was silent for a moment. Then a woman from my small group responded, “That’s why you probably don’t have many friends.” She was frank. To the point.  And a little harsh. The conversation was interrupted by the leader pointing us to the next question. My jaw hung...

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Is It OK to Admit Loneliness?

“It is when we are most lost that we sometimes find our truest friends.” –Brothers Grimm, Snow White My junior year at college was a mixed bag of lots of good community but, little connection. If you saw me around campus you probably thought: “That girl has it...

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Books that Build Relationships: Nothing to Prove

Before 10am there are already a list of things telling me I’m not enough. I am behind on laundry, I did not meet a work deadline and I choose to eat a donut rather than avocado toast for breakfast. To turn my insufficiencies around, I try harder. I people please. I...

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Holiday “Gifts that Give Back” Guide 2016

This holiday season, purchase with a purpose by giving gifts that give back. Not only do the following companies make incredible products that will charm your family and friends, but they also support a variety of different causes. May your gifts inspire cheer and...

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Are You Done Striving?

After a season of intense striving, I am exhausted. I am physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally drained. And not for the reasons you may assume. As a self-labeled “go-getter” or “girlboss,” I have given into the lie that I have to do whatever it takes to...

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Does Your Instagram Serve Others through Story?

Recently, I took some webinars on Instagram strategies. Sounds crazy and totally a Millennial thing to do…because it is. Yet, we can’t be casual or careless with such a powerful social tool. How do our posts tell a larger story? Who does our Instagram serve? How can...

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Mentorship: Show Them Your Sweat Stains

When I began my mentoring relationship in undergrad, I was willing and excited to dive in, but also going through a dark period in my life. The start of my junior year led me to confront a lot of my unmet expectations about community. I thought when I left for college...

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Benefits of Being Grateful

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. -1 Thessalonians 5:18 Thanksgiving Day is not the only time of year to express your gratitude. Gratitude is the posture we should reach for when it comes naturally and especially...

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I am Not a Survivor…

Now that my firstborn has arrived, I am constantly battling the “need” of being a first time parent. When others offer to help, my first response is to push away and say, “I’ve got this.” If my life were like Survivor (sometimes I like to believe it’s that intense),...

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40 Days of Prayer and Gratitude Challenge

I am an incurable challenge seeker. Once, my parents and I embarked on a two-week family vacation where they planned to golf and I, to sit around. I wasn't going to have any of that, so I told them I was going to find myself a job. They doubted me. They thought, in...

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Books that Build Relationships: Breaking Busy

The title alone, Breaking Busy, by Alli Worthington is enough reason for us all to pick up this book and put down whatever tool of distraction we’re using. I’m talking to you Netflix. I have always been a planner and a connector; filling my days with all sorts of...

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Mentorship: Committing to the Process

Two weeks before I left my hometown in Kansas for college in California, I met a young college girl named Missy at a summer Christian camp. She attended the University of Kansas and was known for having the gift of immediately befriending people. I had heard about her...

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Aromatic Influence

I hate the moment when I am driving out of my garage, have turned onto the main road headed toward my busy day, and realize I forgot to put deodorant on. If I am not reminded by my mental checklist of morning to-dos, I am quickly reminded a few hours later when I get...

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