Nothing ever happens by chance and community is no exception.
It’s a new year and there are new opportunities to be intentional with your community. Want to see your friendships flourish this year? Want to finally step out of your comfort zone and get vulnerable with your small group? Wish you had more quality connections? Well, this year can be a year we both commit to going “all in” when it comes to building rooted community.
Here is a list of some great resolutions you can take, adapt, or use as a jumping point to create your own friendship resolutions for the year. Think big because God is going to use your intentional actions to grow fruit in your friendships this year. I am getting excited for you just thinking about how faithful our God is in providing people to enrich life and grow His gospel.
Note: Start where you are. If you have a tight-knit group of friends then maybe you can adopt more practices. If you just moved to a new city, maybe try one or two new things and switch your practices up as your season changes.
- Plan an epic girls trip to a faraway country or to the next town
- Visit a friend who has moved to a new city (suggestion from: Kinsley Sachse)
- Write down friend birthdays in your planner
- Choose 5 friends to get to know better this year, depth over breadth (suggestion from: Elizabeth Mayberry)
- Take more pictures of the people you love being around (suggestion from: Alina Glover)
- Read Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer and host a book club with friends!
- Host a PJ and Popcorn and Pedis party
- Volunteer at a local ministry together
- Galentine’s Day!
- Camping trip (because nothing bonds people together like sharing a tent with folks who haven’t showered in days)
- Read Life in Community by Dustin Willis (which includes a 6 week study)
- Surprise a friend with a picnic lunch
- Grab some friends and get your hair done to celebrate an anniversary or work victory
- Write a list of all the qualities you look for in a friend and then work on trying to be that friend for others
- Create a ceremony to remember God’s truth’s together. Light some candles, brew some tea, and share what God has done this year.
- Read Nobody’s Cuter than You by Melanie Shankel and write down some of your favorite friendship memories to remind you of the faithfulness God has provided in your friendship
- Host a kickball tournament
- Sign up to run a race together
- Consider purchasing some conversation cards to aid your intentional table talk
- Host a spaghetti dinner without the plates and forks, seriously! Just put down trash bags and pour the spaghetti and bread sticks on the table. Dig in.
- Reconnect with an old friend
- Write a letter encouraging a friend
- Facetime date with a long-distance friend
- Clean up someone’s yard
- Plan a Cake Day
- Drop off a meal to a friend in need (or just because)
- Get outdoorsy and plan a monthly outdoor adventure
- Introduce yourself to one new person, or that same person you’ve seen twenty times but still haven’t exchanged names
- Host a favorite things party
- Offer to babysit so your friend can have some “me-time”
- Invite all dog-owner friends for a walk around the park
- Offer to watch a mom-friend’s kids for a few hours
- Double-date with a favorite couple
- Host a dinner where you dialogue about God’s vision for community found in Scripture
- Pray for one friend each week (that’s 52 people you will have prayed for in 2021!)
- Think ahead and plan one weekly friend date (coffee or milkshakes?)
- Weekly phone date with a long-distance friend
- A Sunday dinner with friends
- Listen to the Friend Forward Podcast for regular friendship advice
- Create freezer meals for the week together
- Bookclub with Together is a Beautiful Place
- Attend a workout class
- Bible study (Jen Wilkin has some of my favorite guided studies)
- Playdate at the park
- Start a prayer text thread
- Choose to use positive language when talking with friends
- Read your Bible to encourage your friends with God’s truth
- Journal five reasons you are thankful for your current friends
- Ask more intentional questions and actually listen to the response
- Text an encouragement or Scripture verse to a friend
- Giving your friends the benefit of the doubt
Praying you see God’s richness in your relationships this year! May you surprise yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone, planning ahead and creating a new community habit that builds a lifetime friendship.
Want more one-on-one help setting goals specific for you? You can schedule individual friendship coaching here. Can’t wait to help you discern what your next right steps are.
These are such simple yet amazing ways to be more intentional with friendships. I truly needed this. Thank you Bailey!
Glad they were helpful but simple
I have just finished reading your blog post “1018 New Year Friendship Resolutions”.
Here’s my comment.
First, I loved your initial sentence where you write:
“It’s a new year, and there are new opportunities to be intentional with your community.”
Christianity is a story about a new beginning.
I’m with you.
Let’s go “all in” in 2018.
Your blog post is a welcome reminder of how important it is to think big, and long-term.
Those suggestions you bring to the table are good starting points.
My favourite was “Surprise a friend with a picnic lunch.”
Thank you for your prayer.
May your year be blessed as well.
Who doesn’t love a picnic?
Great post, Bailey! Love Cake day. That sounds great! God bless!
Let me know if you attempt a Cake Day of your own 🙂
I am sure you could add some of your own