Every year, Thanksgiving becomes more difficult to travel home. Flight prices increase, jobs give fewer vacation days, and I find myself choosing to stay in the city during the holiday (even though this year we do get to go back to my hometown).

As the day approaches, I repeat in my head over and over again: “You are a big girl and big girls don’t get sad about not going home for Thanksgiving.” My hope is that the self-talk will put me in the holiday spirit. My head starts to believe I will not miss the tradition of waking up to the smell of roasting turkey and flaky rolls, but my heart sinks when I walk into my empty, aroma-less kitchen.

Thank goodness a brilliant Millennial somewhere coined the term “Friendsgiving—an opportunity to turn my bleak holiday into a friend-filled celebration with laughter, sweaters, and pumpkin pie. I’ll admit that “Friendsgiving” will never be the same as a Thanksgiving at home, but it is a meaningful way to share the season with friends. And perhaps you host a Friendsgiving before you leave town to go home just because they are so fun!

So, how does one prepare to host a “Friendsgiving” that makes every guest feel at home? Let’s start here:

Plan Ahead

In our non-committal society, pledging your time to an event is risky. But, the more thought and effort you put into the prep, the more likely friends are going to say “I wouldn’t miss it.” They know you are taking this “Friendsgiving” seriously.

Everyone Should Contribute

Make the meal a team effort. The Friendsgiving is more meaningful when people can make their favorite family dish and share it with the whole group.


Don’t let anyone at your “Friendsgiving” feel like an outsider. Stop mashing those potatoes for a moment and introduce folks right when they walk in the door. People hate pretending they remember each other’s names so be an intentional host that breaks the stranger-barrier and gets people engaging.

Set the Mood

I know we often like to keep our style simple and bare because we are all about effortless-charm these days. Yet, the atmosphere calls for special attention. Design a playlist that sets the mood. Purchase flowers to make the tables festive. Find the cute paper plates with the turkeys on them. Creating a comfortable, warm, and inviting space changes the vibe for people. “Friendsgiving” is a special occasion; treat it like one.

P.S. You can buy the letter balloon kit (in picture above) from Oh Shiny Paper Co.

Craft Place Settings

If you are crafty, good for you! This will be an easy one. If not, then grab a friend who can help you make a place setting for each person who is coming. Place settings say, “We were expecting you, welcome!” It quickly makes each guest feel special and included.


Conversation Topics

If you’ve invited people from a variety of social circles, using conversation cards is a safe and easy way to start the conversation. Conversation cards are even fun with people you’ve known your entire life. Write your own and leave them on the table OR you can purchase my favorite from Lumitory for $15.

Take Time to Say Thanks

It is a holiday to be grateful for all that God has done in the last year. Make a toast and invite others to share what they are grateful for this Thanksgiving.

Already feeling burn out hosting for the holidays? Then come read my post: “How To Fight Hospitality Fatigue.” We could all use some extra hospitable encouragement as we enter into this season.